DO SOMETHING NEW, I DOUBLE DOG DARE YOU.
A challenges free life creates emptiness. Much richness is derived from extending beyond the normal comfort zone. The mirage of an emotional safe-zone lulls us into stagnation. The fear that difficult challenges ignite are avoided but the discontent of stagnation reigns our emotional world. The possibility of failure makes new endeavors challenging. When we venture beyond comfort zones, we don’t have guarantee of success; we must development new skills.
Many avoid possible failure by avoiding the unknown. Their choice frees avoids anxiety but creates stagnation. Initially the choice provides security; but this security is just a mirage. There are no flowing springs of security in avoidance. The experiences missed by dodging opportunities accumulate. Skills remain undeveloped. Exposure opens new opportunities—whether we failed or succeeded in the past. As we grow, we prepare for greater opportunities that we would have otherwise been woefully prepared to meet. Failing to develop job skills limits income, failing to develop social skills limits relationships, and failing to understand emotions leads us off course. Developed skills becomes the resources needed for greater opportunities. True security is a competence in our own strength, creativity, and courage—not from avoiding difficulties. Sometimes skills surmount a challenge; other times the skills help recover from failure.
We will fail regularly. Failure is difficult. It hurts; but failure is part of the learning process. Rejecting the need to be perfect, helps us courageously approach novel experiences. The pain of past failures resurface with new opportunities. We need self-compassion as we struggle through the inevitable learning-curve. Proficiency results from effort and time. It’s not simply the skills of the new profession that create successful but innate-characteristics of determination, humility, creativity, and courage allow for the development of new skills.
Trading immediate relief for growth is simple; but if we allow for failure, we will find challenges exhilarating; we will give full attention to the newness of opportunity. We will find security in our capability to conquer. Our lives flourish when we engage in tasks, hobbies, and new skills that are challenging but not overwhelming. Easy tasks quickly become boring and lead to meaninglessness while complex tasks that are too challenging are frustrating. Feel the exhilaration of new challenges by engaging in activities that are at the edge of your abilities. The thrill of growth, the sense of meaning, and growing confidence are sure to follow. Do something new, I double dog dare you!
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