WAKE UP! LIVING A LIFE OF QUIET DESPERATION IS NOT FOR YOU
Reliance on caregivers is necessary for survival. A young child cannot face the complexities of this world; it’s too dangerous. Humans maturation takes years before a child is capable of surviving. The complexities and demands differ between societies. During childhood, we develop many essential skills to survive this uncertain—and uncaring—world. The challenges are not fairly divided. The resources are not measured for exactness. Our formidable task is to take what we have been given and succeed. Wise choices ease future difficulties; developing skills sharpens our responses. Careless choices magnify future difficulties while limited skills narrow our approach to problems.
Adults usually meet most demands. We are survivors. You’re here now reading this. You are a survivor. Unlike a child, an adult has greater awareness of hidden dangers. We can forecast unseen threats, accidents, and sicknesses—even death. Part of us longs for childhood security. But that security came with the extreme cost of vulnerability. Complete protection also requires complete dependence.
We experience fear when encountering uncertainties. The most courageous accept uncertainty—after all it is the process of adulthood. Others constantly scramble to create a security that never will be found. We are condemned to live with uncertainty. It’s a characteristic of this world. How we react to uncertainty influences experience. If we agonize about unknowns, anxiety increases opportunity. Fear of new experience stagnates growth. Avoidance of novel experiences impacts the future. Avoidance offers security but with a future cost. Unhappy relationships continue, unfulfilling jobs remain, and dissatisfaction spreads.
We don’t choose to be dissatisfied. We just are. We live in fear of the unknown and dissatisfaction of the known. Secretly we live in quiet desperation. Opportunities require venturing into our fears—abandoning security. These of patterns of stagnation are not conscious choices; they are habits. Habits created for protection. We mortgage futures by protecting ourselves in the present.
We can’t change patterns until we recognize them. Examining our lives closely, reveals hidden habits of self-protection. Mindfulness unveils avoidance.
We fail in many ways. Failures can be addressed. They provide new insights and deeper wisdom. Failing to try offers very little. The call is to wake up! Expose the patterns of avoidance that create the quiet desperation of an unfulfilled life.