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We don't control everything; but do control many things. Through our action, we have significant influence on our future. If we blame frustrations on the uncontrollable aspects of our lives, we will be imprisoned to the pain and limited by our views.

Internal Link. Accepting Life on Its Terms: We stress over the hardships; but life is what is. It always will have troublesome moments. Happiness comes and goes; just as sorrows. Once we accept these inevitable truths, the impact of troubles diminishes.

We protect our lives from the showering of unpleasant experience through our minds and action.

We prepare for unknown challenges by actively engaging in knowledge and skill building activities. We exchange wasteful avoidances and rejuvenate with healthy enjoyments.

The blessings are contingent on action. We must do to receive.

Beliefs blind our vision. We see only what we wish to see, even when the truth is obvious and helpful.

Article Link: The paradox between dreams and current realities confronts everyone and blesses or interferes with their peace of mind.

The intimacy and trust of long relationships are built from dedicated mature partners, working together, giving respect, and compiling positive interactions.

Achieving the most from the wisdom of emotions requires purposeful effort to integrate emotions into our larger concepts of self.

We making choices daily for our health,security, and connections. Life constantly beckons us to act. Often one action may serve one need while neglecting or damaging another need. We must find balance, somewhere in the golden middle.

The failed relationship provides a rich source of information about our insecurities, emotional triggers, and weaknesses. If we fail to pause and reflect on the failures, we consign ourselves to reliving the tragedy.

If we want to free, we must let go of what is holding us back.

Our biased approach to new information limits learning, we get stuck in the ruts of the past, failing to gain essential wisdom.

We face face the reality of nasty habits before we can begin to change.

In the driven charge to become something, we lose the joy of simply being.

The healthy mind needs more than knowledge. We need spiritual practices that give purpose and meaning, realigning our souls with the greater whole.

The Power of Consciousness can evaluate futures and make adaptations, changing impulsive directions.

Intrigued by secrets, we seek the hidden, wasting precious time chasing unknown promises. Success is no secret formula. We achieve through consistent skilled effort, blessed by a little luck.

When we have meaningful purpose, life events take on a different color.

We gain knowledge by wandering in uncertainty. Firm convictions of rightness blind us to the wealth of information available, narrowing our wisdom, blinding our vision.

The blame game intrudes on closeness to protect the ego; intimacy isn't found here.

The strength of our nation and world will come from more open-mindedness. When we blame, shun, or attack others because of differences, everyone loses. We live in fear and bigoted hate.

We must compassionately care for the addicted. We can't know all the underlying causes; but many lie beyond their control.

Building a foundation of wisdom and skill to manage the unpredictable encounters in life.

We are delicate. Our psyches feebly interact with the world. As we mature we adapt; not always in healthy ways. Our strength relies on catching glimpses of these adaptations, recognizing faulty confabulations and forging change where needed.

FLS Link. Desires: neither all good nor bad. Pushes from the underworld of consciousness, significantly impact our action; but these pushes are neither good nor bad. They are a complex construction of living.

Emotions can be powerful--so powerful we may avoid them and the people expressing them. Empathy is gained through openness to experience, one on one contact with the feeling experience of others.

We're not perfect; but we fear weakness and leave them unexamined. We function in fear the imperfections will surface, exposing our frailty to others and our selves. We tip toe through life with a false security. A courageous search of our souls is needed.

Giving meaning to feelings with subjective interpretations

The narcissist presents a special challenge on relationships. The characteristics common for a narcissist typically are disastrous for relationships. Often escape is the best recourse.

There is no set-standard for a life well-lived. Cultures, families and religions have their own take. We must find something that works for us personally without hurting others along the way.

Developing enough self-confidence to not be threatened by differing opinions.

Learning comes from more than pages in a book. Living knowledge must be experienced, converting words into actions.

Emotions are primary motivators for action. Sometimes misguided action needs to be inspected for appropriateness.

Mixed in with the beauty are some sorrows. When we are well-connected, occasionally, along with the joys are some tears.

In the ordinary moments, we can find tremendous meaning.

We need to attend to the balances in our lives. Impulses, demand and others interfere and knock us out of balance.

Our environment is instrumental to our mental health. When work or home constantly ignites stress, our systems bog down, and well-being suffers.

Our lives are set in motion before we realize we have choices. In adulthood, we must confront errant programming and create something better.

When we expect uninterrupted joy, life intrudes and we feel depressed. Life is beautiful; but not always.

There's no perfect pattern. Life can be lived many ways. The complexities of living invade, confuse, and misdirect. So we just do the best we can.

We grow, improving strength and adaptations to approach and overcome the challenges of life.

Seizing the day is a joyful acceptance and a timeless honoring of the preciousness of life. Seizing the day creates a joyful connection to living.

Kindly embracing a hurtful past to invite healing and begin a healthy new life.

As adults, we can create better surroundings to encourage our continued growth. Some do the opposite, surround themselves with others and influences that begin the process of decay.

We don't survive well without effort. Being born is not the only requirement. A healthy life demands consistent healthy action.

PictuHow do we measure success? Does our bank account, car and position determine our worth as a human?re

We must courageously accept the imperfectness of life to learn the areas in our lives that need addressing.

We confront the overwhelming experiences of life through a variety of escapes. A healthy adults adaptation mature as they grow, allowing for contact with reality; others, however, build deeper deviations from reality and squander the richness of living.

We must manage worry to push action without burdening with overwhelm. Concern for the future is important but easily can become all consuming.

We lose control of our lives when we act without deeper contemplations. Impulses misguide, leading to chaotic survival and ego feeding action. We must live consciously to escape these deadly pitfalls.

We must approach change mindfully, keeping energy to push our dreams forward.

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Picture link: We must fight bias through continual search for knowledge, not limited to restricted networks supporting our beliefs; but open mindedness to a variety of sources.

Banner link: Punishing Imperfection- Critical self-judgments create an unfriendly environment for growth. Under harsh conditions the self-begins to conceal reality to protect the soul.

FLS Internal Link. Selfish or Selfless: Individuals and societies need attention. A society of individuals completely self focused crumbles. An individual completely dedicated to the group, ignoring personal needs dissolves into the mass. We need a healthy balance.

We improve the circumstances of our lives, moving from wilting to flourishing, with small manageable steps.

Action, we need action. We can't wait for opportunities, we must work to find them, and then courageously follow the unknown paths to betterment.

Endless stream of words invade tranquility, interjecting and interfering with peace. Our brains generate words that continually cause worry over an unknown future.

A mature, emotionally stable mother loves unconditionally. Unconditional love as adults has downfalls; and shouldn't include unconditional acceptance.

Internal Link: The differences between people give partners an opportunity to build trust and security.

Guilt may push for change or leave us debilitated and paralyzed. Loving kindness is the healthy response to debilitating guilt.

There is a small slice of time between emotion and reaction. We need to utilize this space, shove in a wedge, widen the gap, and act with greater wisdom.

we are self-empowered to change our futures through healthy choices in the present

We can love a person with addictions without being an enabler. The line is difficult and outside judgments harsh. So we do what we can.

FLS Link. Courage to Change: Most of us want a little better. Our lives are in motion, moving towards a destination. If the direction we are traveling isn't where we want to go, we must intervene, force change and correct our actions.

Positive thinking on steroids morphing into magical distorted thinking.

We conserve resources by planning a path that supports our change. Continual challenges erode our strength and lead to failure.

Five life changing discoveries I stumbled upon during a long search for flourishing.

We are in the process of becoming, not through some fantastic event; but through a series of choices. Greatness is born from consistently and patiently making the right choices.

The strength of the relationship is exposed by how we treat a partner when irritable, or stressed. Love requires intentional action.

We live in the present. A tightly bound package of experiences from the past. The past lives in us but does not determine our future.

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We get beastly urges pushing for harmful action. Listening to these desires that hurt destroys our lives.

Successful recovery demands a built in compassionate approach to relapses, working through the setbacks prevents the hopelessness that commonly infects paths to change.

We create the kind environment essential for growth through gentleness to our souls.

We live in an age of prescriptions and corrections. Every oddity is labeled as an illness. We are not ill, just sometimes incompatible. Instead of curing illnesses, we should work towards compatibility.

We are surrounded by beauty. In the struggles of daily choice, we need to slow down, smell the sweetness and then get back to work.

Futures depend on action following thought. We must do more than dream to build better lives.

Knowing the reasons an event occurs allows for better predicting (and preparing) for the future. Knowledge gives security. We often bi-step the knowledge, assume a cause and enjoy a false security.

Two people will disagree in a relationship. This is a given. How a couple responds to these disagreements strengthens or weakens connections.

Biologically driven to chase pleasure, we avoid pain; but modern society evolved quicker than our biological systems could adapt. We must measure impulses first for effectiveness.

Change by its very nature is difficult. We easily follow current trajectories. To change of course zaps energy, draining resources,and feels uncomfortable. Change creates immediate anxiety; but healthy change invites future relief.

We widen our vision by integrating the fate of circumstances with the empowerment of choice.

Behavioral change happens at a cellular level. We remap our brains through mindful effort. Repeated behaviors and thoughts create new connections.

Our plans are disrupted. Circumstances interfere with our intentions. Life will always intrude, demanding adjustments and reconciliations.

We don't spontaneously grow. We need the necessary ingredients. Our souls need to be fed and protected.

When differences arise, it is easy to move straight to protection, building walls to save our tender egos. This stymies intimacy, preventing trust, and destroys closeness. We need open exploration.

link banner: We encounter unpleasant and angering events often. The emotion is normal; but how we think about triggering events either fuels the anger or douses it, so we can act in tune with long-term intentions.

Books, conferences and education are wonderful; but deeper wisdom comes from grander sources.

Link: When life goes wrong, instead of being a victim, view the displeasure as an invitation to change.

We unwittingly promote unhealthy defense mechanisms on line. There are plenty pf social media participants willing to support life limiting adaptations.

The breathe brings life to the body, feeding the heart and brain. Mindful attention to this life giving process can change our lives.

The age of social media and mass data has simplified our lives, removing the need to think. We are provided a serving of daily news catered to our desires.

The challenges of life, when responded to with solution oriented action, create people with character, full of wisdom, compassion, and resilience.

Judgements are penicious things. They self-perpetuate proving themselves by biasing our views.

We need to escape our indoor prisons and bask in the beauties of nature. Outdoor escapes benefit us in mind, spirit and body.

Internal Link: Working through the protective shells of our limited knowledge is the ultimate challenge of closeness.

Living is serious business, give yourself a break. Harsh judgments hurt the soul and slow progress.

It starts with a little thought, breaking free into a word and then an action. We must catch the thought early to divert the flow before we damage the relationships we cherish.

Link: We can't expect a life of ease. The world we live in is unpredictable. Our happiness and success depends on our resilience to the challenges of living.

In our on-going battle to feel good, sometimes we adapt by holding to faulty beliefs. When invested in a belief, the truth hurts.

Trying to feel better is a formidable challenge for many. The well-being industry has many theories. Success requires finding proven paths and patiently working towards a better life.

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