Alexithymia

BY: T. Franklin Murphy | September 22, 2021 (edited November 25, 2021)

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Alexithymia:

Alexithymia is a broad term to describe problems with feeling emotions. The condition is not well known, often considered a symptom of other conditions such as autism, schizophrenia, somatoform disorders or depression, rather than a separate condition in itself.

People who have alexithymia can’t put words to their feelings and thoughts. It’s not that they don’t want to experience feelings or even defensively protect against feeling– it’s an ailment that prevents them from feeling. Susan David PhD., a psychologist on the faculty of Harvard Medical School, explains "people with this condition are also more likely to report physical symptoms like headaches and backaches. It’s as if their feelings are being expressed physically rather than verbally" (2016).

While alexithymia is not completely understood, there is evidence that the condition, at least in part, is genetic.

Causes of Alexithymia

Alexithymia may be a result of brain damage to the insula. This insula is substantially involved in social skills, empathy, and emotions. Research has linked insula lesions to apathy and anxiety. While these findings correlate well with the symptoms of alexithymia, specific pathways for the disorder are still under investigation.

Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., founder and medical director of the Trauma Center in Brookline, Massachusetts and professor of psychiatry at Boston University School of Medicine suggests that trauma can dull awareness of emotion, leading to states of alexithymia. He wrote that "many traumatized children and adults simply cannot describe what they are feeling because they cannot identify what their physical sensations mean" (2015, location 1855).

Kolk explains, "being constantly assaulted by, but consciously cut off from, the origin of bodily sensations produces alexithymia: not being able to sense and communicate what is going on with you" (location 4606).

Emotional Differentiation and Alexithymia

Alexithymia is the inability to recognize emotions, differentiating their subtleties and textures. David wrote that, "trouble labeling emotions is associated with poor mental health, dissatisfaction in jobs and relationships, and plenty of other ills" (2016).

Key Definition:

Alexithymia is the inability to recognize emotions and their subtleties and textures. Alexithymia literally means “no words for mood.”

Spectrum of Emotional Disorders

Those inflicted with alexithymia may describe themselves as having difficulties with expressing emotions. Others may furthermore have trouble identifying their emotions. Symptoms of alexithymia, like most disorders, are measured on a spectrum. Humans experience emotions differently. Some very intensely (empaths) and others appear largely disconnected from internal feeling affects.

Those suffering from alexithymia may not necessarily experience complete apathy. They instead may experience emotions with much less arousal than their peers, and struggle to feel empathy.

Perceiving Emotion in Others

People with alexithymia also have difficulty perceiving emotion in others. Lisa Feldman Barrett describes alexithymia with this example; "if a person with a working conceptual system saw two men shouting at each other, she might make a mental inference and perceive anger, whereas a person with alexithymia would report perceiving only shouting" (2018, p. 107).

People who suffer from alexithymia encounter difficulties processing social situations, missing the subtle and sometimes obvious clues of emotion motivating and energizing the interaction. Many times, because their inability to experience emotion, they see emotion as a non-essential element that confuses rather than improve relationships. Yet, their emotion blindness is exactly why so many of those suffering from alexithymia fail to build intimate relationships with others.

Externally Oriented Thinking

Research has found associations between alexithymia and external oriented thinking, which is the extent to which people focus on details of external events instead of internal feelings about an event (Panayiotou, et al., 2020; Kaya & Aydemir, 2021).

A simple question posed to a person inflicted with alexithymia such as how did you enjoy your daughter's wedding may be answered with expressionless details of the event instead of feelings about the event.

A man suffering from alexithymia explains, "from an inner-feeling point of view, anything I do that requires an emotional response feels like a fake. Most of my responses are learned responses. In an environment where everyone is being jolly and happy, it feels like I’m lying. Acting. Which I am. So it is a lie" (Young, 2019).

What Alexithymia Looks Like:

Sufferers of alexithymia may exhibit the malady in many different ways. Some, like the man just quoted, is aware of their deficiency, many people, with alexithymia, however, are blind to their condition, relying on maladaptive defensive reactions to compensate for their inability to connect to their inner world and the inner world of others.

The condition may be manifest in many ways:

Difficulty identifying different types of feelings
Limited understanding of what causes feelings
Difficulty expressing feelings
Difficulty recognizing facial cues in others
Limited or rigid imagination
Constricted style of thinking
Hypersensitive to physical sensations
Detached or tentative connection to others (Serani, 2014).

Treatment for Alexithymia

The effectiveness of treatment for alexithymia depends on the cause. If alexithymia is a maladaptation to trauma, as suggested by van der Kolk, then the learned defense can be unlearned. If the alexithymia is a manifestation of lesions or damage to the insula than most treatment plans will fail.

For most, whether specifically diagnosed with alexithymia or simply suffering from limited feeling experience, we can improve integration of feelings.

Here are a few ways to broaden and expand your emotional awareness:

Journaling:

Research strongly supports the well-being benefits of journaling. To use journaling to increase awareness of emotions, daily entries focusing on inner experiences rather than external oriented details of events is suggested. Journaling provides a non-threatening path to our treasured inner-worlds.

Mindfulness:

Mindfulness is purposeful attention given to inner experiences. By shining the light of awareness on inner movements of energy, we see what previously was missed. Mindfulness is a key practice for healthy integration of emotions.

See Focus on Feelings for more on this topic

Emotion Focused Therapy:

There are many skilled based therapies to help clients better work with their emotions. Therapy can be effective in either individual or group sessions. A particularly helpful style of therapy is emotion focused therapy.

Increasing Vocabulary to Describe Emotions:

A simple hack to improve emotion differentiation is to increase our emotional vocabulary, expanding from simple terms of sadness and anger to more granular descriptions. With expanded vocabulary, our feeling experience also expands.

A Few Words from Flourishing Life Society

Emotions play a significant role in living a rich, flourishing life. When disconnected from this flavorful piece of life, we struggle to find meaning. Life because a dreadful dullness of greys. Yes, emotions bring vibrant colors into our living experience. Sorrow and joys in all their wonderful flavors make each experience a treat.

Sadly some miss out on this experience. Research suggests this number can be as high as one in ten people suffer from alexithymia. We must be patient and understanding with those (others or ourselves) suffering from this condition.

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T. Franklin Murphy

Wellness. Writer. Researcher.
T. Franklin Murphy has a degree in psychology. He tirelessly researches scientific findings contributing to wellness. In 2010, he began publishing his findings.