"The anxious lover stays in relationships they should leave, runs from opportunities they should pursue, and commit to people they marginally know."
Letting go of the hope that “feed me first!” will work takes time and effort. This is when small doses of positive reinforcement, small infusions of the “helper’s high,” can both overcome resistance and demonstrate the promise of what can follow once we are willing to change our perspective. (2009, location 3669).
"The overwhelming demands to quell the seemingly never-ending storms leaves the less anxious lover’s needs unheard."
One trouble with insecurity is that it keeps you focused on yourself, and relationships grow only when partners can pay attention to each other. The feeling of security is closely related to the ability to trust people, and your propensity to jealousy suggests you are quick to perceive threats in others. It might be worth exploring in your own psyche or with a therapist why you have difficulty trusting women and how you can bolster your own sense of self (2013, p. 38).