Avoidance
BY: T. Franklin Murphy | May 2015 (2018)
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Paying the Price for Security
Avoidance relieves stress in the moment; but habitual running carries a high price, impacting futures, and limiting growth.
During my first semester of college, I fell behind in a few classes; procrastination was the culprit. The accumulating assignments overwhelmed my first taste of self-organization. Living on my own and trying to earn enough to survive, I experienced the anxiety of existence for the first time. The psychological load outmatched my mental resources; too proud to seek help, I dropped most of my classes. My decision to withdraw delivered immediate relief. I experienced comfort by giving-up.
#fear #anxiety #courage By giving-up, we conserve mental energy, relieving anxiety; defeat is deceivingly soothing. Quitting and moving on is not always wrong, sometimes we need space to heal, instead of working at a failed cause until we collapse. But quitting has a cost. We trade relief for accomplishment. For me, a few extra weeks of late-night work would have prevented retaking mandatory classes. Always retreating, gaining temporary relief quickly becomes a bad habit; better futures require enough grit to face of tough demands. Stress is uncomfortable. And stress heightens as we extend beyond normal comfort zones. The great achievements lie beyond the valleys of stress.
Stress is good; too much stress is bad. Improved futures require we perform with moderate stress. When we realize the connection between stress and achievements, the knowledge bolsters our resolve to march forward into the shadowy unknowns, maintaining composure when the pressure ignites fear and the still doing what we must do. We must scrutinize the impulse to escape roughness. These pulsing desires can be destructive. Whether we simply give up, shoot up, or run away, we default to devastating habits that promise a life of pain. Choices made unconsciously through impulsive reaction must be reevaluated for effectiveness, examining the short and long-term costs of escape.
Many of us have several of these unhealthy reactions to stress impeding our lives—we just don’t know it. We must dodge the ego and accept responsibility, honestly examining past choices, unveiling the nasty patterns. Sadly, without insight, we will continue to flee opportunity to void stress, never achieving our intentions. Managing stress is a skill, requiring more than grappling with pain by powering through it. We use tools to assist, soothing anxiety and giving hope. The tools shouldn’t be a surprise—meditation, exercise, healthy eating, rest and supportive friends. As we mindfully examine our lives, discovering avoidance and learn better skills to address the stress, we will seize more opportunities.
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