Destructive Emotions Bad Motivations BY: Troy Murphy |January 2014
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Our emotions are in flux; waves moving through the soul, inspiring action. Joy, disgust, sadness, and anger are not weaknesses of a weak mind but a natural reaction to experience. With action traced to emotions, set in biological givens, we mustn’t blame the givens to excuse rotten behavior.
As humans, seated in the conscious mind is empowerment. We can choose. Our choices bless and curse our lives. We must believe we can act against motivational pushes; if not we are no more than a dried reed in the wind. Housed within the broken soul, tormented by destructive emotions, are morsels of goodness often obscured by ugly action. The hidden wholesomeness requires careful nurturing to break through the crusty soil of the sensitive ego, to discover the missing joys. Somewhere during development, some minds deviate from healthy paths, drifting into self-perpetuating cycles of darkness, lost in self-deception. The misrepresentation of reality confuses the emotions, sending mixed messages of right and wrong. Image protecting justifications swoop down to protect self-images while supporting the soul-destroying paths with cockeyed lies.
When poor choices create unbearable existence, life threatens provoking anxiety, the weight of reality overwhelms. The broken soul may know change is needed but when crushed on every front, small changes seem stupid and unrewarding. Good deeds appear pointless as consequences (from past choices) keep haunting the present. The most immediate escapes are deceptions, lying about the true condition of their life. The most available joys are future destroying pleasures. Change for those sucked in these downward spirals is difficult. Emotions programmed from chaotic lives are inadequate guides. The past is jumbled without clear connections between effective choice and future rewards. When emotions fail to properly guide, we must first become skilled in productively process the unpleasant disruptions. Acknowledging and accepting the initial feeling (it belongs to us, we felt it) and then skeptically examining our compulsion to act. These impulses may be off course. The pattern of feeling and action runs deep; the wheels have run the course thousands of times, carving ruts difficult to escape.
"The broken soul may know change is needed but when crushed on every front, small changes seem stupid and unrewarding. Good deeds appear pointless as consequences (from past choices) keep haunting the present.."
Our expectations (beliefs) configure emotions, invoking waves of feeling through the body when experience deviates. If we believe we are entitled to a life of ease, with no sorrow, our unrealistic expectation accentuates emotional responses to trouble. The faulty belief interferes with well-being. We suffer from the belief. The expectation magnifies the troubling event. While the mind significantly accentuates and minimizes emotions, we shouldn’t strive to feel nothing at all, disconnecting from attachments and connections. The goal isn’t perfect harmony. The world sends messages that impact our souls, and motivate passionate responses. This is the richness of living.
With mindfulness, we acknowledge the role of faulty expectations, we’re not free from discomfort, but lessen the impacts of reality, processing emotions and the disturbing events in constructive and life-giving manners. This is a life empowered; the foundation of well-being—a life of feeling, connecting and accepting.