BY: T. Franklin Murphy | November 2018
The paradox between dreams and current realities confronts everyone and blesses or interferes with their peace of mind.
Many people struggle with reality while entertaining spectacular dreams, hoping for the idealistic life. We all can sit down and make a list of ideals. Dreamily exploring the fantastic and wonderful. The world is full of riches and opportunity. The television and internet provide a never-ending stream of elegance and fame. Possibly our drive for the outlandish may come to fruition, but most likely not. When we puff our minds with magical dreams, the contrasting reality becomes dull and uninviting.
We get stuck in several paradoxes of life and this is one of them. We shouldn’t settle, living in mundaneness. But at the same time, we shouldn’t shun the simplicity of living a normal—non-famous and non-filthy rich—life. Here in the real world, with both feet on the dirt, we can find great enjoyments. Last week, the lottery hit an all-time record nearly reaching two-billion dollars. I rarely indulge, but the record high, and the media hype pushed me to the convenience store. With ticket in hand, I began to plan. The dreams were a nice diversion. Needless to say, I, along with the other 200 million losers, will not be buying a mansion anytime soon.
"Here in the real world, with both feet on the dirt, we can find great enjoyments."
There is nothing inherently wrong with dreaming. The problem invades when dreams poison our enjoyments of the moment, making normalcy feel like a failure. Cheers to those that hold great dreams and achieve them. Stories are written about their successes. But even many of these success stories are marred with unhappiness. The fantasies failed to bring the contentment. With riches in hand, and fame abroad, the dreamer still is searching for the evading peace and happiness.
Somewhere over the rainbow real life exists. Constantly battling in our psyche is the conflict—working for more while settling for what we have. The reality of experience is often spoiled by the sparkle of unrealistic expectation. These conflicts disrupt the serenity of the moment. The beauties of life fall flat against the dreams of paradise. Hopes constantly lives beyond the next horizon. Unfortunately, most never discover peace by finding the right person, group, employment or acquisition. The calmness of mind is located in our being, accepting the world as it is in the moment, and patiently pushing for a little more.
(Adapted and Edited from a 2011 FLS post)
Flourishing Life Society Website search: