Change Takes Time
BY: T. Franklin Murphy | July 2018
Giving New Behaviors Time to Mature
Life has many wonderful parts; but it isn't always beautiful. As we work to improve, we must be patient and compassionate, working through the stubborn difficulties of self-improvement.
Patience grasshopper, patience. We yearn to be the main character in a beautiful fairy tale. We seek a personal Holy Grail of enlightenment, discovering our calling, our purpose, and our salvation. With patience, we are rewarded with fascinating finds and beautiful discoveries; but often the discoveries are small, not the great enlightenment we expected. Don’t disregard these small learnings; the small pebbles of discovery must be collected, saved and integrated to reconfigure our lives.
When we give purposeful effort to live better, our work often elevates experience. This honorable undertaking has powerful dividends; but like financial investments they typically pay overtime and not with a huge immediate reward.
A search for purpose intrigues and excites at first; but if the purpose we seek does not exist, we become frustrated depressed and lost. We must compliment these searches with health action. A endeavor more grounded in what we know, rather than what we hope to find. If our searches co-exist with efforts to become, they can add to the richness of our lives.
We achieve financial security through sacrifice, budget and improved marketability of skills. These are the boring discoveries of financial success. Often the safe path to success fails to draw the same attention as the glitter and ringing arising from the beckoning of a slot machine. The lottery ticket approach to well-being is risky. A safer approach demands small behaviors, the prepare a foundation for greater rewards. The desired life is not discovered; it’s created—slowly molded from small, mundane behaviors—doing the right things over and over and over.
Time, often lots of it, is required to create the future we seek, transforming the present with small, subtle changes. New seeds take several weeks to root and break through the soil; small behavioral changes don’t immediately reshape our existence, give changes time to mature and break through the hard shell of current circumstances. With patience and compassionate nurturing, the seedling grows, and strengthens; eventually the branches of change become weighted down with the fruits of living right.
Topic: Human Growth, Change, Self-Improvement