Small Manageable Steps Life Changing Growth | One Step at a Time BY: Troy Murphy |February 2018
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We can change. Life may feel lacking, pushing us to seek more. Self-improvement, human growth, may cure dissatisfaction with life; improvements in thought or action increase well-being. Escaping the weight of anxiety, we amuse our senses dreaming of gigantic life-altering changes; but once engaged, the challenge of adjusting natural reactions, dampens motivations and we eventually lose interest when faced with the drudgery of the task. We bask in comforting thoughts of a better life; but struggle with creating a better life. Sometimes big hopes motivate big action. Other times, not. In most situations, intentional change—the permanent kind—stalls between the dream and actualization. The dreams are aesthetic—they feel good; the work to attain the dream is a distasteful journey. Somewhere in the process, if we are to improve our lives, we must implement the change.
We achieve purposeful change through small painful steps, reaching beyond comfort, and not through a single momentous feat. Implementing successful change is a skill, requiring self-awareness, persistence, and resources. We must acknowledge current realities, envision future possibilities, and engage in the proper work.
Each step of change is fraught with challenges. Our realities may be distorted, muddying accurate assessment of the starting point, our dreams may be misguided and unrealistic, and our efforts may be ineffective. But errors can be fixed, failures studied, and corrections employed. To arrive at the desired destination, we must proceed cautiously, objectively measuring progress, acknowledging new challenges and evaluating effectiveness of efforts.
Often misguided action that creates havoc in our lives has a long history, set in emotion during childhood learning. These unhealthy patterns, entrenched in the basic connections of the mind are stubborn. Although the original implanted learnings were adaptive to a chaotic environment may be maladaptive to the serenities of a healthy adult connection. These misguided actions, motivated by surges of emotions, need a different approach. The actions are symptoms rather than causes.
"Often misguided action that creates havoc in our lives has a long history, set in emotion during childhood learning. These unhealthy patterns, entrenched in the basic connections of the mind are stubborn."
These deep invaders also are subject to change. The small manageable steps include recruiting reputable and expert help, avoiding hype of unproven methods and relying on reliable science. Lives change and improve when painful action is addressed internally and externally with effective remedies.
Begin immediately, hope for something better, open the door for change, seek effective answers, garner supportive resources to embrace us through the journey, and take a small step into the darkness, holding hands with the joys, sorrows and richness of a flourishing life.