Splitting: A Defense Mechanism

BY: T. Franklin Murphy | January 12, 2022 (edited March 24, 2022)

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Definition, examples, discussion on the defense mechanism of splitting

Splitting:

Splitting is a psychology term that describes an inability to hold opposing thoughts, feelings, or beliefs. Splitting is a defense mechanism unconsciously implemented to tame difficult emotions by simplifying interpretations of chaotic and conflicting experiences. Splitting often accompanies border line personality disorders.

Splitting isn't limited to diagnosed illnesses. We witness splitting in varying degrees from everybody. When cherished beliefs, hopes, or needs dash against the jagged rocks of reality, we often split the present reality from the rest of our subjective world, lessening the pain of dissonance.

Key Definition:

Splitting is a psychological defense mechanisms that lessens discomfort of conflicting states, emotions, beliefs or ideas.

Splitting and Judgment

Often to ease cognitive demand, a person splits others or events into rigid terms of black or white—all or nothing. This distorted way of thinking sees others as good or bad, ignoring human complexity and harshly judging those they dislike and blindly accepting those that they prefer. The practice of splitting neither weighs or considers the mixture of positive or negative attributes inherently present in everything.

Splitting (also called black-and-white thinking or all-or-nothing thinking) miserably fails to integrate the complex dichotomy of both positive and negative qualities of the self and others into a cohesive, realistic whole. This failure of thought interferes with personal development, healthy compassion, and comprehensive understanding of our human condition.

Splitting and Emotions

Another common form of splitting is separating emotions from experience. This practice of splitting has immediate rewards of performing without the burden of distracting emotions. However, over used splitting of emotion and experience leads to disconnection from life giving feelings.

Trauma may lead to practices of splitting. War, violent environments, and abusive homes often lead to splitting to protect against the overwhelming weight of constant fear.

The NeuroAffective Relational Model(NARM) is an advanced clinical training for mental health professionals who work with complex trauma. They place the protective mechanism of splitting into on a continuum of disassociation starting with numbing, progressing to splitting, and ending with fragmentation (2012, location 2425).

"Psychoanalysts call this ‘splitting’– an unconscious strategy that aims to keep us ignorant of feelings in ourselves that we’re unable to tolerate" (Grosz, 2014).

While numbing of overwhelming feeling may serve as an emotional regulation process, repeated splitting of experience and emotion eventually leads to dysregulation, fragmenting life into chaotic chunks of meaningless events.

Just as a coyote with its leg caught in a trap chews it off in order to escape, in attempting to manage early trauma, the organism gives up its unity in order to save itself. Numbing, splitting, and fragmentation create disorganization on all levels of experience. Manageable levels of overload to the organism’s capacity to process are experienced as stress and distress, but when stress and distress become unbearable, the organism manages the overwhelm first by numbing, then by splitting, and finally by fragmenting. These life-saving dissociative processes exact a terrible cost. (2012, location 2427)

Splitting as a Protective Mechanism

Splitting is a commonly implemented defense mechanism. Like other defense mechanisms, it operates beneath awareness. The harmfulness occurs not from simple splitting, which we all use on occasion, but from severe separation of emotions, experience, and perceptions. Splitting becomes problematic when it leads to harmful behaviors.

If splitting helps soothe discomforting emotions so we can perform necessary behaviors for goal attainment, it is succeeding as an adaptive mechanism. When our splitting begins to disrupt life, harm relationships, ignore helpful information, our protective mechanism must be exposed and tamed.

In his classic book Adaptations to Life, George E. Vaillant explains that adaptations that channel rather than block inner life feeling affects were far more helpful (1998). We do better finding mechanisms to fuse emotions and behavior rather than split. The healthy adaptation changes the narrative or perception allowing difficult or conflicting elements to co-exist.

"The ability and willingness to keep two opposing views in mind at the same time are hallmarks of adulthood."
Richard Cohen

Examples of Splitting

Splitting in Perception:

Everything a political figure does is 'good' or 'bad'
A person or group of people are seen as entirely 'good' or 'evil'
Everything a specific media outlet publishes is seen as 'fake' or 'fact'
Lovers are flawless or a wreck

Splitting of Emotion and Experience:

Normal emotionally provoking experiences are examined entirely by facts. (Relationship arguments reject all emotional appeals)
Normal attachments are eschewed
Frightening encounters approached with a stoic and expressionless state

Flipping of Split Judgments

Splitting interpretations are subject to sudden flips in interpretation. A person completely committed to a religion becomes the harshest critic when they leave. New lovers are flawless until the script flips and they are seen as a demon.

Splitting disrupts are ability to see the complex intertwining of personality traits or characteristics. A church usually has many good and bad attributes. Just because our vision of a perfect institution is shattered doesn't mean everything about the institution is terrible. Just because we notice a flaw in our beloved spouse doesn't invalidate their many other good qualities.

Intelligent evaluations demand we see both the positive and negative in the object being judged. We must be cautious with those that initially see us as flawless for a flip in judgement is inevitable.

"The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function."
F. Scott Fitzgerald

Harmful Impact of Splitting

While moderate splitting can alleviate emotional spirals and keep us on tract, excessive splitting interferes with wellness in a variety of ways. Splitting limits knowledge, invites bias, and hinders intimacy. Splitting is considered an immature defense mechanism.

Self-destructive behaviors intrude when we only process limited data. A person who splits with absolute judgments, labeling everyone as good or bad, will never establish deep, healthy relationships. We all have plenty of good and bad.

Watch for Dangerous Splitting Behaviors

As all defense mechanisms, splitting occurs unconsciously. We split but believe we are open minded. Being alert to key flags of splitting can help reveal the dangerous practice.

Always and never distinguishers. "He always does that." Always and never rarely are accurate
Opportunities seen as "no risk" or "100% likely to fail." Most opportunities are a mixture, with varying degrees of risk
People are "demons" or "angels"
Science, history, or news is either a "complete fact" or a "complete lie"
Efforts are either a complete "failure" or "perfect success"

Splits Never Completely Keep Conflicts Apart

Areas unconsciously split never remain separated. Life keeps reintroducing the conflict. We must continually reengage in protective splitting until we courageously face the conflict and create a narrative that integrates the complexity. People that split life and behavior from emotion don't magically discard the emotions, living a fine life of logic. The emotion still exist. Buried emotions emerge in unlikely places, often through physical ailments and broken relationships.

A Few Final Words on Splitting

Defenses get a bad rap. They, however, play a role in mental health. The problem occurs when they become a prominent part of our personalities, preventing healthy interaction with experience and others. Oddly, we like to split defense mechanisms into rigid categories of 'good' and 'bad'.

Like many other wellness strategies, we must mindfully examine our lives, attending to mechanisms that interfere with relationships, knowledge, and growth. If a practice enhances our life, than it is helpful. If our protective practice limits or damages futures than it is most likely unhealthy and must be modified or discarded.

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T. Franklin Murphy

Wellness. Writer. Researcher.
T. Franklin Murphy has a degree in psychology. He tirelessly researches scientific findings contributing to wellness. In 2010, he began publishing his findings.