Home | Human Flourishing | Change Archive | Courage to Become

Desire to Become

Facing the Discomfort

BY: T. Franklin Murphy | November 2018 (edited December 13, 2021)

A little boy with a full grown man shadow. A Flourishing Life Society article on achieving dreams

Adobe Stock Images

To achieve our dreams, we must courageously take on the anxiety of change, moving from the ordinary, and doing something more.

We have a great conflict. We desire to grow, achieve, and become. I believe everyone has desires. We dream of brilliant futures but live ordinary lives. We can blame and just wallow in our mundane world or we can achieve the better future we seek.

We are lazy. We naturally seek to conserve energy whenever possible, flowing effortlessly with current practices. Life is more predictable when we move with set trajectories. The battle between desires and energy conservation rages. One of these opposing drives dominates and determines our path. We may alter from time to time—no course is set. The battle is not over in our twenties or thirties. Through awareness and careful nurturing, we can commit to growth, pushing to new heights.

"To venture causes anxiety, but not to venture is to lose one's self.... And to venture in the highest is precisely to be conscious of one's self.”
Søren Kierkegaard

Becoming has never been and will never be a practice of the slothful. We can’t wait for feelings to motivate more action; we must act to motivate better feelings. We spend too much effort trying to soothe the spirit and not enough effort to achieve our desires. Sometimes we feel like sitting but should stand. Sometimes we fee like hiding but should communicate. We must fight behaviors that perpetuate growth inhibiting tendencies.

The courage to become remains a part of our human existence, even if the courage lied dormant for years. The past does not have to determine the future. Religious philosopher, Paul Tillich, challenges us to courageously take on our own anxiety (Tillich 2005, pg. 22). We all have anxieties over limitations to strength, intellect, and skill. We worry we are not sufficient to achieve the greatness of our dreams. We must courageously face the anxiety of insufficiency and move forward, gaining wisdom in failures and fortifying our weak spots. We must awaken and become.

(Adapted and edited from an 2011 FLS post)

Please support Flourishing Life Society with a social media share or by visiting a link:

T. Franklin Murphy

Wellness. Writer. Researcher.
T. Franklin Murphy has a Bachelor of Science degree in psychology. He examines current and past psychological studies to enhance our understanding human flourishing and wellness. In 2010, he began publishing his findings.