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We're not perfect; but we fear weakness and leave them unexamined. We function in fear the imperfections will surface, exposing our frailty to others and our selves. We tip toe through life with a false security. A courageous search of our souls is needed.
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The Tipping Point

BY: T. Franklin Murphy  | November 2015 (edited 2018)
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The consequences of better choices don't immediately change our lives. We must trudge through the beginnings of change, and slowly the improved action accumulates and we receive our reward.
Tomorrow isn’t devoid of the past. Shedding natural consequences of a neglectful action doesn’t happen with a good night sleep. The past continues into the present. The past, in many ways, isn’t the past at all, but a prominent part of the ever living present. The past flows into every new day. An intellectual grasp on the complex intertwining of past and present magnifies in our minds the importance of the moment. The individual moment includes all the yesterdays and springboards into the tomorrows. Our history sets the trajectory of our lives; today we either mindlessly follow that trajectory, giving way to fate or we courageously adjust, creating new trajectories for the following tomorrows.
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We can change the course of an unfulfilling life. And a flourishing life requires just that.
"The individual moment includes all the yesterdays and springboards into the tomorrows."
The in vogue message that tomorrow is a new day and that yesterday doesn’t matter is overly idealistic, giving hope, sometimes inspiring healthy change. I get it. I understand the purpose behind the one day at a time mantra. Tomorrow isn’t completely dependent on yesterday. The drug addict may abandon his slavery to the needle, the abused lover may seek safety, and the chaotic person may create structure. We can change. The unsavory life can reform. The chronically depressed can find peace. The angry can enjoy calmness. Change is possible—trajectories change. Past patterns that wreak havoc are not unchangeable. In this sense, tomorrow is a new day.
 
Changes don’t magically occur. The longer the boulder rolls down hill and the heavier the rock, the more difficult the work to change the path. No waving of a magical wand washes away the path; we must approach these rolling stones with caution and patience, courageous undertaking a prolonged and arduous project. We often must summon additional resources to succeed. We start by making a few healthier choices. The consequences of the past continue to linger, still influencing the present but the introduction of new behaviors begin their work to shape the tomorrows.
 
We must accept the moment—consequences from the past and all. When we compassionately accept this moment (with its struggles, weaknesses, strengths, joys and sorrows), we strengthen our resolve for change. Past choices may limit opportunities today, but by continuing on our new path things will begin to change, creating new opportunities somewhere in the future.
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Changing trajectories requires force. Without force, the momentum continues forward, gaining momentum. Initially new behaviors go unnoticed against the powers of the past. The following days, weeks and even months seem unchanged—the same limiting forces continue to impose their will on our lives. We continue to feel the residual pain. The past continues to influence emotions, responses, and the environment even after our introduction of significant changes; but as we faithfully continue with new healthy habits, eventually the positive deviations take hold—relationships strengthen, debts shrink, and opportunities materialize. Our efforts altered the trajectory, creating a healthier past and a brighter future.
 
During the process of change, we eventually arrive at a juncture—the tipping point—where positive actions that have accumulated now outweigh the past, and life dramatically changes. Many give up before arriving at this tipping point, slipping back into old routines and familiar pain from comforting consequences. Courage! Patience! Persistence! You can make it through the bleak days of change and flourish in the light of new life, less encumbered by the distant past. The tipping point is waiting, pull back your shoulders, summon assistance and continue to trudge forward.
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