Ten Signs that a Person is a Poor Dating Choice
1. Boundary Violations: frequent unannounced visits, calls, and text messages. Frequently ignoring requests, dismissing of your obligations, and interrupting other areas of your life.
2. Too perfect: your date is too charming, has all the right lines, comes across as excessively smooth. Your date loves everything you love and hates everything you hate.
3. Hidden life: conceals important information about himself that you discover later. After several dates, you realize you know very little about him/her. Where do they live, where do they work, what is their family like. Answers to direct questions are vague and subject to interpretation.
4. Unhealthy Jealousy: your date discourages time spent with outside interests, family, and friends. A date searches your phone, email, or documents. A date spies on you at work.Your date has extreme mood swings from casual conversations. It may seem cute that your date is so into you but this will not be cute later on.
5. Lack of stability: changes jobs frequently with long periods of unemployment in between. Unmet financial obligations, high credit card balances, and no secure housing.
6. Does not respect you: asks you to do things you are uncomfortable doing (e.g., lying, lending him money, sex, etc.), Does not respect “No," to his requests.
7. Other Dysfunctional Relationships: has “deadbeat dad” issues, volatile relationships with ex-spouses, and partners.
8. Long history of addictions: drugs, pornography, gaming, etc... Inviting an addict into an intimate relationship does not solve the problem, it makes the problem yours.
9. Immediate attachment: your date pushes for immediate commitment, introduces marriage talk early, Soul Mates. Those with dangerous characteristics prefer commitment before the new "love" object gets to know them.
10. Mental Illness: some mild forms of mental illness can be treated with medication. But mental illness does not cure itself. A partner with severe mental illnesses can be volatile and ill equipped to satisfy a partners needs.
“Affliction comes to us, not to make us sad but sober; not to make us sorry but wise.” ~H. G. Wells